Something to Consider Once You Are Expecting

Once you are FINALLY pregnant to say you are excited is an understatement! It took my husband and I what seemed like forever to actually conceive. Therefore, once I was convinced that the pregnancy test was actually telling me the truth, (It took 5 tests to be convinced!) I wanted to shout it from the roof-tops! However, I caution you to keep the happy news close to your chest. I stopped short of announcing the news on Facebook and I’m glad I did….

Everything was going so well and I had no signs of a miscarriage, but when we went to hear our baby’s heartbeat, I knew right away something was wrong. The nurse kept running the ultrasound probe over my tummy, and I could tell that she was noticeably concerned. She kept searching trying to keep a poker face as not to alarm us, but I KNEW something was wrong. I could feel a heatwave of emotion start to swell within me and tears began to pour down my cheeks. The doctor soon confirmed what I already knew. I had miscarried. This was the most painful experience of my life. To go from sheer glee just moments before, to feeling like my heart had literally been ripped out of my chest was simply too much. What made it even worse was calling my parents and my husband’s entire family to tell them that I was no longer pregnant.  My doctor scheduled me for a D&C and told me that we could begin trying again after three months. It ended up taking us eleven more months to conceive again. In fact, I went back to my doctor in tears telling him something was wrong, because we still hadn’t become pregnant. They did not test me that day. However, I found out 6 days later that I actually was pregnant! By this time, someone had informed me of the “Three Month Rule.” Don’t tell ANYONE other than your spouse of course that you are pregnant until you’ve gotten past the three-month mark and have heard a strong heartbeat. You could still miscarry. However, it is much less likely after the 1st trimester. This may seem like common knowledge to some, but it wasn’t for me. In fact, miscarriage was the furthest thing from my mind. I am happy to report we now have the most precious little boy. He brings us more joy and happiness than I ever knew existed. He has strengthened our marriage and is truly the BEST thing I have ever done.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jennifer Ingle